End the Blame Game and Reclaim Your Power
As a kid, I recall hearing people say, “If so and so jumped off of a bridge, it doesn’t mean you need to.” I never knew anyone who jumped off a bridge, but I understood it to mean that I should know right from wrong, regardless of whether someone else doesn’t. I know many people have heard that same “life lesson” told to them at some point in their lives.
Yet, I hear many people, who likely preached that same life lesson, say things like, “It’s China’s fault. “They pollute more than we do, so why should we be accountable to help the planet if they aren’t?”
Isn’t this the same lesson? Regardless of what others do, we should inherently know right from wrong. And we do, deep inside. It’s the ego’s need to blame someone outside of us that is the problem. Our ego is our “inner roommate”, (the over-thinker, judge, controller, etc) in our minds.
Everything that we see on the big screen that is our country and the world in this moment in time, is a mirror for what is happening at the individual level of society.
When we see leadership take a tragedy and use it as a reason to place blame, many of us find it deplorable. Yet, many people have this same desire to blame someone or something for what bothers them too. And nothing can change for us or the collective society, when we are in blame mode.
Any time we are looking outward at someone else as the source of our problems, we take power away from our own ability to provoke change. Can we be present for a situation without having a blame spiral happen inside of us? Can we allow people to have opinions, that we can feel are not healthy or accurate, yet still maintain our presence and not take it personally?
Why It’s All Ego…
When we have darkness inside of us (usually childhood trauma) that we don’t want to face, our ego seeks to look outside of us for an enemy or someone to blame for how we feel. It’s the ego’s way of deflecting, to protect us from having to deal with our own darkness. It almost runs on autopilot this way. It is a great adaptation for our traumatized child selves, but in the long run doesn’t help us evolve.
Then the ego will find a savior. This is someone whom we perceive as more powerful than the one we are blaming, and who we think is more powerful than ourselves. Again, this deflects the attention away from looking at and healing our own darkness that lies within. It is scary to look at your own pain that you have been stuffing away for decades, but it takes way more effort to hold it all in than it does to release it.
The truth is you are powerful beyond measure. Your power lies in your ability to heal your individual wounds, so you may elevate your human consciousness and not add to the collective suffering.
If each of us makes the time to do what it takes to heal our own wounds and find our peace and love within, we are doing all we can to contribute to a more peaceful society. And in doing so, we are helping to bring love and light to the world, rather than add to the darkness and chaos.
As Martin Luther King stated, “Hate cannot Drive Out Hate, Only Love Can Do That.”
I interpret that as, you must find the love within yourself, so you can be in a place of love even when there may be hate in the world. If you have space for hate and can feel it being focused on something or someone, it is taking up space where love could reside within the self.
Hating, blaming, or judging anyone is wasted energy and time, and physically not healthy for the body. When you notice your ego-self doing this, try tuning into something you love, appreciate, and can see the good in. This will naturally align you more with your soul self, and further away from the ego thoughts.
If that feels impossible and you are heavily triggered (reactive), then this presents an opportunity to look at where this may be coming from. Why is it hard to find your peace within? What may need to be healed within you, so that you may stop looking out at what fills you with anger and resentment toward others?
This can take time, as deflecting blame is obviously a societal and individual norm for the majority. Blame is an egoic thought pattern that renders us powerless. And you can see this on a macro level in society, that when everyone is blaming everyone else, nothing gets done.
Instead of allowing the macrocosm of society to trigger us, we can choose not to participate in the blame game and align with the love that we naturally have within. The more of us that can do this, the better our society will be. We will be compassionate, and naturally come up with solutions, rather than feed problems via the never-ending blame.
This is the natural way of your soul-self. You were born a compassionate, loving person. Then life happens, people get wounded, and they try to find reasons for their pain. The ego gets protective and tries to guard that pain so nobody, not even ourselves can see it for what it is. But it is time to allow that pain to be realized by you, felt by you, appreciated for the life lesson, forgiven, and then let go.
So, take what triggers you in the collective society, and look within yourself. Sitting around blaming the “other side” does nothing to promote change. Freeing yourself of the darkness that lies within will enable you to align with the peaceful and powerful being that you truly are. And that is a much happier and healthier place to be.
If you need help in doing this, seek help from a coach or counselor. Spend time with yourself in peace without all the noise. Meditate, so you may understand the difference between your ego voice (more intense and manic) and your soul self (calm and content). Uplift yourself, rise above, and others will naturally follow.
You can find me at Healthy To The Soul, if you need a spiritual life coach. We truly can help change the world for the better, one aligned soul at a time.